Did I Not Get the Memo?

Where did you all meet your current spouses?  

Have I been doing something wrong here?

•  I’ve been to bars
•  I’ve been to parties
• I’ve gone on vacations
• I went to college
• I’ve lived on both coasts
• I’ve been set up by almost everyone I know
• I’ve gone to shit tons of weddings
•  I’ve dated my friends
•  I’ve dated a few co-workers
• I’ve dated my brother’s friends
• I’ve dated classmates from my childhood
• I’ve tried Match.com
•  PlentyOfFish.com
• LavaLife
• Cemistry
• OkCupid
• Right now I’m on Eharmony

Hell, I even started airing my entire soul on a blog about being single, and still no dice.

I am the last remaining single (and childless) person in my group of friends. 

It’s really cute that almost all of my college friends married each other and have had adorable children... see..

...but it has become a bit daunting to show up to their parties knowing full well that at some point my cursed life of solitude will be the topic of conversation.  My guy friends, who are so handsome and unfortunately taken by all my beautiful girl friends, marvel and shake their heads as they either try to come up with some kind of explanation for this phenomenon or wrack their brain for someone they can set me up with.

• Finney, I don’t get it! You’re so beautiful! If I were single, I’d be all over you.
• What are you doing wrong?
• Have you tried the on-line thing?
• Don’t worry, I KNOW there is someone out there for you, just keep being yourself and he’ll show up.
• What is wrong with you?
• Why do you always go for the bad boys? Finney, you’re attracted to the wrong type!
• I cannot believe no one has snatched you up yet! It should be illegal for someone like you to still be single.
• You are going to make someone very very lucky.
• Don’t you WANT to settle down?

As my brother and I were backing out of my parents driveway to do some holiday shopping back in 2002, he very casually twisted around to see behind him, putting his arm behind my passenger seat, looking out the back window then looking in the rear view mirror, obviously avoiding my eyeballs, and nonchalantly said, "Sooooo, anyyyy...boyfriends lately?.....or.....you know.... girlfriends - it's TOTALLY cool man.. whatever...."

 

Instead of blogging about my misery, I thought I’d benefit if I just asked you, the readers, how you met your significant others.

Maybe there’s a corner of the world I haven’t pursued yet. Or is there a secret trick I don’t know about?

I’ve always been told that love comes when you least expect it but I don’t think I’ll ever NOT expect (or beg God profusely) to meet that great guy when my foot hits the welcome mat, even if it’s to get my damn mail.

My sister-in-law told me that she had finally become comfortable with spending her life alone and then 3 months later she met my brother.

Well, I’ve already done that.

I’ve already found the liberation of being alone forever. Unfortunately I find myself in a neurotic circle of misery because, once again, I’m back to being lonely and afraid.  So please don’t tell me to stop hoping for love.

Perhaps I’m trying too hard? All those on-line dating sites and giving almost every guy a chance even if I’m not attracted to him… maybe that’s not working?  I  have even gone in the opposite direction and have turned dates down. That didn’t help my love life either.

Yes, I have had boyfriends and I do go out on dates. That’s not the problem.  I just haven’t found “him” yet and I’m starting to wonder if it’s "me"!

So please, do me a favor and give me the golden ticket. 

 I want an everlasting gobstopper!

 What’s the secret?